Video FAQs & Related Resources

Related Book

Give and Take by Adam Grant is a comprehensive treatment of how people naturally “give and take” in relationships, and shows there needn’t be a contradiction between being generous and also (sometimes) receiving some kind of benefit.

Related TED Talk

Below is a guide to offering attention in person, based on a funny and helpful TEDx talk by Celeste Headlee. I also wrote about it here.

Related Chapters in Working Out Loud

  • Chapter 5 - Building Relationships

  • Chapter 6 - Leading with Generosity

  • Chapter 11 - Your First Contributions

Tip: My Top 5 Ways to Offer Attention in One Click

  1. Like a post or comment on LinkedIn

  2. Like a post or comment on Twitter

  3. Like a post or comment on Instagram

  4. Follow someone on Twitter

  5. Follow someone on Instagram

Tip: My Top 5 Ways to Offer Attention In Person

  1. Cultivate genuine curiosity about the other person: Their feelings, ideas, story.

  2. Listen carefully.

  3. Make eye contact.

  4. Ask open-ended questions.

  5. Build on what the other person says.